March 8, 2014 By Ruth Seebeck 1 Comment
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” It’s an old children’s nursery rhyme, but it’s not really true, is it?
Have you noticed how weighted down you feel when a person says something unkind or untrue about you? The problem with hurtful words is they remain in the atmosphere of your thinking. They hurt, often worse and far longer than physical pain. It’s difficult to regain your equilibrium.
Our tendency is to blame ‘them’ for the problem. As we overdose on self-pity, we forget that we have the ability, indeed the God-ordained right and power, to rule our emotions. That includes unforgiveness, anger, sadness, grief and other negative feelings.
God wants you to have stability and peace. That is why your spirit is supposed to be stronger than your emotions, so you can govern your actions and reactions.
When you find yourself in that downward spiral of anger, hurt and a desire for retaliation, it’s important to ‘stop the madness’. Here are seven steps to help you forgive.
Unforgiveness is a crutch. It makes you a victim instead of a victor. And I’m sure you don’t want to be on crutches all your life! Take back the control. Do not let another person rule your thoughts and emotions. By allowing yourself to focus on the wrongs, you lose sight of the goodness around you, the possibilities of blessing and joy.
Learn to recognize when you are harboring negative thoughts about another person. It is often easier to forgive major incidents, while you forget to forgive minor ones. If you have been in a relationship for very long, you know how easily you can dredge up past hurts, even the insignificant ones. The desire for recrimination, (“You hurt me, too!”), Is a major factor in divorce and failed relationships.
Forgiveness is not optional. Jesus said, “When you pray, forgive” (Mark 11:25). Your emotions should not control your obedience to Divine instruction. By using these steps, you will be able to follow His plan to release love in every situation. And, after all, love never fails (I Cor. 13:8).
Remember that forgiveness is a DECISION, not a feeling. It takes strength of spirit, mind and purpose to walk in love. You may have to remind yourself several times a day (as your mind tries to circle back to the hurts) that you forgave that person.
Stay with it. It gets easier with practice! You will eventually find yourself ‘rooted and grounded in Love’ (Eph. 3:17) instead of anger, hurt or bitterness. Practicing forgiveness is critical to your emotional freedom and stability. It is the key to peace, joy and contentment.
Howdy! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of
my good old room mate! He always kept chatting about this.
I will forward this article to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read.
Thanks for sharing!